An ex-boyfriend once told me that when it comes to love, Sagittarius are always looking for someone better, and he felt like that was definitely true of me. At the time, I didn’t have the heart to tell him that was only the case because I was dating his dumb ass. But I will admit that casually dating and going out with many people is appealing to me because it lets me weigh my options and get to know someone better before I commit.
I am not a serial dater. I guess that’s all comparative, but I have probably been on less than 20 dates with guys I have met on an app. However, I have multiple friends who are now married to men they met that way, and I think it can honestly be a great way to widen the dating pool, especially once you get out of college. Yes, there are horror stories, and it can be a little awkward especially at first, but it can also be really fun and who knows? You could meet the love of your life. At the least, you will have some great stories. To help you out in your dating app quest, I’ve compiled some tips and advice. And don’t worry, if dating five guys at once sounds exhausting (and it can be) you can totally just take it slow and these tips will still be super helpful.
The idea of a New Year’s resolution has always brought me so much stress. I have immense anxiety when it comes to thinking about my life and my success or failure at it. As the oldest child, I was born with a natural affliction for perfectionism that was intensely compounded by some family chaos and my generation’s parental reassurances that “I was special.” It seemed as if I was destined to be successful. It was never threatening or forced, but I was made to believe that my potential naturally was very high and to waste that potential would be a fatalistic failure. I put a lot of pressure on myself to not mess up and to do everything “right.”